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Embracing Her Ministry: Husband, Children, Home


This blog is dedicated to helping women embrace their God ordained role; to embrace their ministry-husband, children, and home/

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Thoughts on Brides

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on April 27, 2011 at 3:33 PM Comments comments (0)

A Letter From Your Mother

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on April 27, 2011 at 3:10 PM Comments comments (0)

A Letter From Your Mother

Dear Kids,

Don't be alarmed, the world isn't coming to an end. I

am simply taking a

bath. It will take about thirty minutes and will

involve soap and water.

Yes, I know how to swim. Even if I didn't, forcing

myself to drown in a

half-inch of lukewarm water is more work than I've got

energy for. (Which

reminds me, I'm all for science projects, but the next

time you want to see

if Play-Doh floats, use cold water.)

Don't panic if I'm not out right on time. I've heard

that people don't

dissolve in water and I'd like to test the theory.

While I'm in the tub, I'd

like you to remember a few things.

The large slab of wood between us is called a door. Do

not bang to hear my

voice. I promise that even though you can't see me, I

*am* on the other side.

I'm not digging an escape tunnel and running for the

border, no matter what I

said a while ago. I didn't mean it. Honest.  There will

be plenty of time

later to tell me about your day. "Later" means at a

time when I am no longer

naked, wet, and contemplating bubble gum in the blow

dryer. I know you have

important things to tell me. Please let one of them be

that you have invented

a new way to blow bubbles, not a new way to add gum to

your hair. Believe it

or not, shouting "TELEPHONE!" through the closed

bathroom door will *not*

make the phone stop ringing. Answer it and take a

message. Since Amazing

Mind-Reading Mom has the day off, you'll need to write

that message down. Use

paper and a pencil. Do not use your brother and the

laundry marker. We can't

Under Husband or Men?

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on April 14, 2011 at 2:59 PM Comments comments (1)

Ephesians 5:22 is clear that a women is to obey her OWN husband,(NOT every man.) 

Though men, in general, are not necessarily fulfilling their roles,  

God has placed men as the authority (head) over women, and therefore  they need to submit to this authority.

Moreover, this authority was established from the very beginning, before the fall (Genesis 3),because Adam was formed first, then Eve. This order in creation reveals man's preeminence over woman. 

The Lord established this authoritybefore the woman's first breath, by creating man first. Does this apply only to women who are married? 

 1 Corinthians 14:34; I Cor. 11:3; I Tim 2:13

A woman who sees her place as under man is not inferior to him.

She is taking her place in much the same way that a nurse in a surgical room does. The nurse is necessary to the surgeon, to aid him in completing the procedure with the best possible outcome.

If women, as a whole, were to see themselves as helpers, compliments, help meets, no woman would feel inferior. (Though some men, and some surgeons, think they are superior)  There are limitless examples of this in the corporate world--the head (CEO) makes the final decisions, but that doesn't make the employees or partners "under him" less valuable or inferior to him.

Women dealing with men should have a submissive spirit and demeanor. There were/are always men who will take advantage and exploit women. Men are confused about what a woman expects, and the natural inclination to rule, which God instilled in them back in Eden, is acted upon in the wrong way, with the wrong spirit. 

In by-gone times, a women would never seek to "set a man straight", (which today is rampant) because it was not her place to do so. Any indignation (righteous or otherwise), any difference of opinion or belief between a woman and a man, was handled with the utmost respect, and temperance. Respect not just for the man and his place, but for her OWN reputation, conscience, and dignity, as well as retaining her honor  and grace.  

The feminist,"anti-man" spirit of the world so permeates our culture that it's seeped into the church, causing some preachers and teachers to succumbed to it.

Although there are exceptions, such as Judges 4:4

 "And Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time" and Romans 13:1-7 reminds us that rulers and powers are there because God ordained it to be so, the Bible is against women rulers.


Isaiah 3:12, "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths."

Error and destruction is the result of women ruling.


God doesn't require me to OBEY other men, in the same way that He commands me to submit to and obey my own husband. However, I do believe that as a woman, it is needful for me to be aware of my place, and take great care not to usurp authority over a man.

 I Timothy 2: 9-12

"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence."

Shamefacedness means: n. Bashfulness; excess of modesty.  This doesn't sound like the way many women, including Christian women, are today. 


 Familiarity* can lead to temptation and sin.  For testimony sake, my daughters and I,strive be friendly, and respectful, but not familiar with brothers in Christ, often addressing them as: Mr., brother,  uncle, or pastor. Our children address adults w/proper titles of respect for men/women.  (*another reason why it's good for  a woman to be a keeper-at-home)


This is how we've trained our sons and daughters in preparation for life, ministry, and marriage. We've tried to reach back to an era when it  was commonplace for men to be the protector and provider.

Little Steps

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on April 11, 2011 at 5:36 PM Comments comments (0)
Though I want to fill this site with lots of wonderful treasures from my storehouse of helpful articles, I find the need to do so in little steps. Today I "found" a gem. This testimony is from 2002, or earlier. Sister Bettie shared it, and I am really thrilled to post it for all to read. 

Reading this earlier today was an encouragement to me, again. Bettie's Testimony

Through the years, it is apparent to me, that none of us knows the full impact of our words on another person.  Compliments or criticisms, may have life long consequences, that are beneficial to the hearer, or devestate and discourage them to the point of them despairing of life.   Oh that we would all weigh our words and try our spirit before we utter a word! 

Dear Bettie had no idea when she humbly posted her testimony that it would still be encouraging others today.  Thank you, Bettie, for inviting us into your world.

Getting Back in the Swing-- part 2

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on February 12, 2011 at 3:13 PM Comments comments (0)

Recent years have been extremely difficult for our family on a personal level. When you go through storms in life and you don't always keep your eyes on Jesus, like Peter, you sink. Before you know it the waves are over your head, pulling you under, and then He reaches way down and lifts you up to safety.  

When that happens you are really tired and out of breath,spitting water out, wiping seaweed off your forehead, you rest a bit,, shake the water off, dry out and you are ready to go on with life.  

When I was a little girl, my parents took us to the beach. My sister and I would hold on tightly to each other when we went into the water. One time in particular, the waves were especially big and rough. We tried to stay standing but we could. Before we knew it we were both underwater trying to stand back up. Almost as soon as we caugh our breath and grabbed hold of each other again, another humongous wave came and back under we went. It was scary. We  barely stood back up and... the waves were towing us down and under again. By the end of our vacation, both of us we're covered with scrapes and scratches and cuts, from being ground into the sand and shells by those waves. I still remember a few times when we must have been drug under for a couple of waves. I remember looking up through the water, seeing the sun overhead, but not being able to put my feet down long enough to get my head above water.

Unbeknownst to us, my parents were watching us the entire time, making sure that we emerged from the water every time. If perachance we hadn't, my father would have rushed to grab us, or gotten lifeguards to aid us.

The reason I told this true story is that it correlates to my life on a personal level.

I was drug about under the waves, out of breath, tired, so worn from the waves of life and the roughness of the sea, that there was nothing left to give. I needed time to heal and regain my strength and courage. By God's grace that is happening now.

No promises this time. I am just going to do my best and with the LORD's help I will be able to get things organized and be a blessing to others.

If you get a chance to visit the links page you will see I updated and organized them. The Sister Sites are the websites and blogs that I write and maintain.

Pray for me and my family.  

Mrs. Bob  

Long time indeed, decrease in emails...

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on November 8, 2010 at 4:23 PM Comments comments (0)

Yes, it has been a long time indeed.  The weeks just slide into one another like penguins on the icy shore.  Sometimes I feel like they do too, you just can't stand up for long without falling down, again.

Don't you?


I'm not sure how, where or when, but I intend to make a page or site to post the notes I take from our verse-by-verse Bible studies, and misc. sermons notes.  I hope it will be edifying to all who browse there, and also, to increase your faith, and get a bit 'o meat to chew on spiritually speaking, and not just about being a woman or wife or mother.

My husband dishes up the meat and you get alot to think about when it comes to the Word of God. So much good stuff, that I feel compelled to share it.  I'm going to put up a huge disclaimer that my husband might not have said what I wrote verbatim, so please don't hassle him about mistakes or misunderstandings. 


Thanks to the nice people of webs  I am able to connect all my sites for easy updating and editing. Less hassle is a good thing.  Lord willing I will also be able to import writings from my scattered about blogs and house them all under one roof, finally. 


Finally, with the huge decrease in email and email groups, which I for one really miss, instead of  pouring my heart into email that falls on deaf ears and blind eyes, I hope to be a blessing here. This less intrusive ministry will be available 24/7.


Thanks to all those who come here and read, and most of all thank you for the many prayers that have been uttered on behafl of my family. 

Blessings, Mrs. Bob in PA



New Venture coming soon

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on December 11, 2009 at 9:12 PM Comments comments (0)

Lordwilling, around the beginning of the year, I will consolidate all my blogs on in one location. This will include photos too. My stuff is so strewn about it is extremely difficult to keep all the usernames and passwords straight. I plan to keep the email group going, but plan to add an interactive blog/forum, just not sure what exactly will be the easiest to use, and navigate.

Getting Back in the Swing

Posted by joyfulhelpmeet on November 12, 2009 at 8:05 PM Comments comments (0)

In the past few years our family has gone through alot. As a result, I have been hesitant to write much of anything. One reason was because I was afraid that being in an emotional state I would say things I'd later regret. Another reason was because I honestly felt that I had nothing left to give. Ever hear the expression, you can't get blood from a turnip? That was me. I was the turnip.Besides running on fumes, I didn't want to run off at the mouth and hurt someone else like I had been hurt.  One thing that all this has taught me is the importance of looking at yourself. Instead of pointing a finger at someone else, which is easy to do, and often is a ploy to detract attention from oneself (speaking from experience), we need to stand in front of the mirror and take a long, hard, honest look at ourselves FIRST, and then if we pass God's test, we might be ok to point out a flaw, fault, or sin in someone elses life.  During the course we've run, it has been extremely difficult not to become bitter. Bitterness will destroy you. I think it's sister is pride.

Now I am trying to regain my strength so that I can not only meet my responsibilities and obligations to my husband and children at home, to our church and church family, but also, I pray that I will be able to reach out and bless, encourage, and aid Sisters in Christ in their womanhood-at whatever season of their life they are in, with or through the situation and circumstance in which they find themselves.Widowhood, and divorce sometimes occurs without any warning. Life as it was known is forever changed. An empty or emptying nest, even knowing when the baby bird will spread their wings and fly, even if the reason for leaving is godly, or right, one is not prepared for the void that bird leaves in it's stead. By God's grace I will endeavor to be here, even if I am of little help, to listen and pray and be a friend.


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